During eight evenings in September, we ran an Active Listening and Conflict Resolution course, on Zoom with attendees from Germany, USA, Australia and New Zealand.
Highly interactive and quite challenging, it exposes how egocentric we are at listening and how often we want to impose solutions when people share their problems, or we make a variety of judgements, instead of truly listening.
To really listen to somebody, whether they are a child or an adult, requires a deep respect for the persons ability to solve their own problem and come to their own conclusions. A good listener provides feedback that helps someone with a problem clarify the problem for themselves. That’s how true intimacy is built.