Womb Memories Part 5
We have established over these last four monthly update entries (on our website at https://anazao.com.au/category/anazao-updates/ ) regarding womb memories just how self-aware and, more importantly, aware of their surroundings outside the womb, a child inside the womb is. We have seen how the connection to the mother is particularly strong.
It will come as no surprise then that the first rejection in a child’s life often occurs in the womb and almost always occurs when the child is conceived out of wedlock.
The child is normally about two or three weeks old when the mother realizes she has missed her period and does a pregnancy test.
The child is eagerly awaiting her response.
Unfortunately, for most illegitimate and unplanned conceptions the mother’s first response is “Oh no, I’m pregnant” and the associated feelings of disbelief, shock, panic, and confusion send a clear message to the little baby that she is not wanted. Rejected. If there is any talk of abortion, this rejection is compounded enormously.
It is at this point that the child invariably dissociates because s/he is emotionally overwhelmed. Many years of recovering such memories with clients confirms this is no theory but fact.
As we have seen in the example of the vow the child made regarding the car accident (October 2024 update https://anazao.com.au/october-2024/), at this point children often make vows. These vows will of course vary depending on the child and the extent of the mother’s reaction.
If the child’s personality and attitude is more tenacious and feisty, she is likely to make a vow along the lines of, “My mother doesn’t want me. I am on my own and I will look after myself.” This can present in childhood and later life as a self-contained independence, perhaps rebelliousness and a cautiousness towards intimacy.
If she is more passive, a placater and wants to please, the vow might be, “l will do my best to please my mother so that I will win back her affection.” This can present in childhood and later life as the model child, the perfectionist, acutely aware of those around her and her impact on them but not robust in her own identity.
Another response may be to simply give up and have little vitality, energy or engagement with life. Various addictive substances and behaviours may become attractive escapes from dwelling in the present.
However, each of these vows are symptoms of a deeper core belief that every child adopts when they realise their presence is not wholeheartedly embraced. “There must be something wrong with me for my mother to reject me. I am fundamentally flawed.”
Though not the only reason for the childhood and adult responses to life explained in the examples above, these first-occurrence womb events provide the foundation for later rejections to settle and build.
It is only in finding where Jesus was in these first occurrence events that a true resolution can take place. The domino effect of that first healing will filter automatically into later rejection events and bring deep healing and change in the person’s current situation.
Womb events really are that important.
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